Not Caring What Other People Think

Last night, I listened to this podcast in lieu of watching any old episodes of shows we’ve not caught up on. Chris was busy in the office working on his podcasts and editing, and so I had some time to sit and just relax in the quiet after the kids went to bed.

“Not Caring What Other People Think Is a Superpower.”



Ed Latimore wrote a book titled just that. Throughout the episode, they actually didn’t touch on this title until towards the end, but what Ed had to share about his life and experience was inspiring.

When you stop worrying about what other people think, a whole world of opportunity opens up. You no longer are impressing others and are focusing on the best person you want to be. Not who you should be, but who you actually want to be.

Frugal Living and Not Giving a Rat’s Behind

Frugal living has made that muscle that grow stronger! Everyone has an opinion for how you should spend your money. When you are no longer spending it, it’s outside the norm and it changes how other people view you or even treat you. When you stop caring, you’re able to stop spending to impress or keep up with others, as well as focus on a different path.

We have lost friends over time as our spending and savings lifestyles have not meshed well. We had friends at one point who were offended that we asked them to bring a dish to a party we were hosting. Oh and when we asked them to throw out their own plates… How dare we ask people to clean up after themselves!

Welp! We walked away from those friendships and moved on! All of our friends now are happy to bring food or drinks to any party we host, when asked or not.

Side Note: Thanks Abbey, pickle dip is ALWAYS appreciated. Thank goodness you’ll live down the street soon.

Changing Who You Are

In addition, many relationships in my life have changed when I have decided to change who I am or what I look like or what I’m interested in.

I remember back in college when I lost weight for the first time. I learned the hard lesson that I would lose a ton of friends at the same time when I made such a life change.

Many friends liked me just the way I was, because it didn’t cause them to look at their own lives or situations. When I lost weight and focused on getting healthier, I was a threat to their own identity. If I could do it, why couldn’t they?

A college friend actually threw green beans at me for going to the gym every day… yeah, thanks Cassie. We stopped talking after that. Luckily, her roommate Ann witnessed it and instead of following that rude path she supported me.

Be Unapologetically You

This episode is a good reminder that you need to walk your own path and design your life to fit who you are and who you want to be.

Friends will come and go, and things will shift around you, but when you’re true to who you are and also strive to help others, people will gravitate toward you. Those who don’t support you will fall by the wayside as you learn to care less and less about what they think.

Keep it all in perspective. Change into who you want to be and ignore what other people think. In the end, you’re the one who has to live your life, they won’t have to.



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2 Responses

  1. Steveark says:

    There has to be a balance. You will never achieve anything worthwhile without an extensive network of people who respect you. So obviously you do have to care what those people think. But you want them to respect you for who you are, not fool them into respecting a fake you.

  2. Mr. Groovy says:

    “Many friends liked me just the way I was, because it didn’t cause them to look at their own lives or situations. When I lost weight and focused on getting healthier, I was a threat to their own identity. If I could do it, why couldn’t they?”

    Lot of wisdom there, Kate. I’ve had a similar experience with a close friend. When I was struggling financially, he was my best bud. But then as I started getting my financial act together, he suddenly became less available. And when we did get together, he was no longer happy-go-lucky. He was bitter and peevish. Oh, well. That’s just the way it goes. I learned over the years to just keep my distance. I’m not going to sabotage my financial life just to sooth his pathetic ego.

    Thanks for the great post, Kate. Anyone who’s a fan of The Art of Manliness is alright by me. Cheers.